Puzzle of Life: Where Does Conflict Fit?
Conflict is one piece of many in this puzzle we call life. One must know how to strategically place it into the puzzle so it does not interfere with the big picture called life. The conflict piece can come in many forms and shapes because it is forever changing. As the puzzle master, one must use recognition and discovery to solve the pattern. There might perhaps, be a time where the piece may not fit perfectly. It is up to the individual to determine the correct place to put the piece in order to solve the puzzle.
To begin solving the puzzle it is important to start with the conflict(s) occurring within oneself. Conflicts occurring within are known in the conflict resolution field as intrapersonal conflict. The prefix intra as described by Dictionary.com is a prefix meaning “within”. These types of conflicts develop from our own, thoughts, ideas, values, emotions, assumptions, and self-criticism, etc.
Have you ever had a conversation with yourself? Felt restlessness or uneasiness about a certain situation? These thoughts and emotions can be described as intrapersonal conflict. For example, a friend was telling me about an internal problem she has been having recently. Over the past few months she has been contemplating about whether or not to purchase a new home. She is currently in an apartment and having a problem with the neighbor living above her. During the night she can hear the neighbor’s television, loud arguing, doors slamming and the smell of smoke coming through the vents. The thought of home owning seems very appeasing at the moment. She has never confronted the neighbor for fear of unnecessary tension between the two. Instead she bottles it up and acts as if a problem does not exist until the noise and smoke appear. Because she is the only one aware of the problem she does not consider it a conflict. It is only if and when she confronts the neighbor that she has engaged in interpersonal conflict…now we all know there is a problem.
To combat interpersonal conflict, there are several avenues she can make: retaliate and make noise of her own during odd hours, burn incense to block out the smoke coming through the vents, forgo speaking to the neighbor and contact the rental office, request a new apartment, confront the neighbor, etc. Making the wrong decision can have a major impact on her life. Questions she should consider are: what affect will the smoke have on my health, how will the decision affect my personal life, why should I stay, what options should I consider if I stay or move?
For additional help on developing questions for your interpersonal conflict consider The CINERGY® Conflict Management Coaching Blog – ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) by Cinnie Noble.
Yvette Watson Jenkins
University of Baltimore Negotiation and Conflict Management
28 Replies to “Puzzle of Life: Where Does Conflict Fit?”
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a reply.
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] There you can find 6475 additional Information to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Information to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] There you can find 90752 more Info to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More on on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More here on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Information to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More Info here on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Information on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More Info here to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Here you will find 61372 additional Info on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More Information here on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More Information here to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More Info here to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Info to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Information on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More on that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Information to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Find More here to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Here you will find 70027 additional Info to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] Read More to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]
… [Trackback]
[…] There you can find 25021 more Info to that Topic: texasconflictcoach.com/2014/puzzle-of-life-where-does-conflict-fit/ […]