Name Calling – When Will It STOP?

Robert Fulghum, an American author, is quoted as saying “Sticks and stones will break our bones, but words will break our hearts” not to mention our spirits. Name calling, mudslinging, defaming and insulting words are all about impulsively responding to someone or something that is a threat to the beliefs, values or attitudes we hold dear. We learn it as kids as way to protect ourselves and to hurt others intentionally or not. Unfortunately, we carry these deep wounds and/or bad behaviors with us into adulthood. If you are someone who habitually uses name-calling as a defense mechanism, explore what is behind this behavior. We will share some questions for your consideration. If you are someone who holds deep wounds from the act of name-calling, then explore how to move beyond the hurt and change how you engage with someone who continues to insult you.
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The Top 10 List…Strategies for Constructive Conflict Engagement

Join me as I celebrate my 10 year anniversary as a woman-owned business with Conflict Connections Inc.. As a way to honor this anniversary, I will share with you the Top 10 strategies for dealing with conflict constructively. These strategies and tips come with a 17 year experience as a conflict resolution practitioner, and from a place, just like you, one who deals with personal conflict in everyday life.

I also want to extend my sincere appreciation and gratitude during this Thanksgiving week for all of your support, and tuning into the Texas Conflict Coach shows.

Managing Conflict in the Face of Change

Change happens right? The change could be a long awaited and welcomed change or one that is unexpected chocked full of angst and conflict. We experience it in our personal lives and in our work organizations.

According to the works of Williams Bridges in his book entitled “Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change” it is all about managing the transitions. The show focuses on the 3 phases of transition each of us goes through when we know change is on its way. How do we maneuver and let go of the past? How do we move through the forest when we feel lost or confused? and finally, what does it really mean to have a new beginning?

Developing Your Conflict Competence

Conflict is at the heart of some of our best ideas and at the root of some of our worst failures. How can we improve our competence to make the best out of this inevitable part of our lives? During this show Tim Flanagan and Craig Runde will discuss how to improve cognitive, emotional, behavioral and normative skills required to manage conflict effectively. They will draw on stories and tips from their new book, Developing Your Conflict Competence.

Craig Runde, Director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics at Eckerd College, oversees training and development on the Conflict Dynamics Profile assessment instrument and other products and services of the Center.

Tim Flanagan, Director of Custom Programs for the Leadership Development Institute at Eckerd College, is a frequent presenter at professional conferences and has consulted with scores of leading national and international firms.

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Good Intentions Often Paves a Path of Gold….to Hell.

Listeners we are already half way through the year. Where are you with becoming conflict competent? I discussed in January a plan for building competency and confidence in how you are dealing with conflict in your life. Listen to the January 19, 2010 show for the 4 Commitments. I will address specifically commitment #2 – focus on your intentions and commitment #3 practice constructive responses. The key here is COMMITMENT and PRACTICE.

Are you doing this? Or, are your intentions paving a path of gold…to hell? Are you really changing or do you hear yourself saying “I’m sorry” one too many times when you are triggered by someone. I invite you to call in to the show and share your experiences.

Becoming Conflict Competent: Your Plan for 2010

In today’s show, we are going to help you develop a plan for “Becoming Conflict Competent” in the new year. So, if you want to stop running away from those tense situations or maybe even curb your sharp or sarcastic tone when you are defending yourself, then listen in for a simple plan to help you change how you will deal with these conflict situations in the coming year. I am asking you to make 4 commitments on your journey to becoming conflict competent.

Conflict Dynamics – Identifying Your Behaviors

Got Conflict? In this episode, we will be talking with Debra Dupree, Relationships That Matter, LLC. She is a certified master trainer for the Conflict Dynamics Profile (CDP). This profile identifies the hot buttons, and conflict behaviors that one uses when they are confronted by conflict. Are your behaviors constructive or destructive when you are confronted with conflict? How do we identify these behaviors and how do we begin to change.

Debra Dupree, Founder and President of Relationships That Matter, represents a specialty firm active in working with San Diego’s business communities working out relationships as a Mediator, Meeting Facilitator, Business/Conflict Coach, Trainer and Organizational/Family Therapist.  Debra is a former chairperson of the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) Workplace Section and Past-President of ADR-San Diego.  She professionally trains people internationally to become mediators, is a frequent speaker at local and national conferences, and is on the faculty of two major San Diego educational institutions.  Debra possesses a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology & Education from the University of California-Santa Barbara, Pre-doctoral training in Organizational Development & Disability Management from San Diego State University, and holds ACR’s designation for Advanced Practitioner in Workplace Mediation (AP).   She is a Master Trainer of Eckerd College’s Conflict Dynamic Profile (CDP) and currently specializes in “high conflict” relationships.

Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader

Got Conflict? In this episode, we will speak to Craig Runde, co-author of “Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader.” This book “underscores the importance for leaders to develop the critical skills they need to help them, their colleagues, and their organizations deal more effectively with conflict and move their organizations forward.” But wait folks, this is not just for leaders, this book is for anyone who want to learn the why and how to manage conflict effectively.

Craig E. Runde, director of the Center for Conflict Dynamics at the Eckerd College, oversees training and development of the Conflict Dynamics Profile assessment instrument and Center programs. He is the coauthor of Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader (Jossey-Bass, 2007) and Building Conflict Competent Teams (Jossey-Bass, 2008). Craig is a frequent speaker and commentator on workplace conflict issues. He received his B.A. from Harvard University, M.L.L. from the University of Denver, and J.D. from Duke University.